I’m Dr. Phoenix Brill — registered psychologist, professor, and author of the upcoming book The Psychology of Dating. I translate peer-reviewed research into things you can actually use by Friday.
Find your dating pattern — 2-minute quiz About the book79% of Gen Z daters report burnout. It’s not weakness — it’s design. Your nervous system is responding normally to an abnormal way of meeting people.
A meta-analysis of half a million people says narcissism is actually declining. What you’re seeing is usually something less cinematic — and the real red flags have a rhythm you can learn.
Attachment styles are dials, not labels — and dials move. The research on earned security is some of the most hopeful science we have about love.
Swipe fatigue. Situationships. AI boyfriends. “He’s avoidant.” Modern dating has new rules, new vocabulary, and a new set of ways to feel terrible about yourself — and almost none of the advice out there is based on evidence.
This book is. Eighteen chapters of peer-reviewed research on how attraction, chemistry, attachment, and red flags actually work — written to be funny, punchy, and useful, because science that puts you to sleep helps no one.
Two minutes, eight questions, no wrong answers. This isn’t a diagnosis — it’s a mirror. Based on the attachment and relationship science from the book, it’ll show you the pattern you probably already suspected, and what the research says actually helps.
I’m a registered psychologist, professor, and clinic founder who talks about modern dating the way your smartest friend would — if your smartest friend had read all the studies. Data-backed segments, zero fluff, at least one laugh per interview.
I’m Dr. Phoenix Brill, a registered psychologist in Calgary, Canada. I founded a group therapy practice, I teach in a graduate counselling program, and I’ve spent my career in the rooms where people tell the truth about their relationships.
Somewhere between the hundredth “why do I keep picking the same person” and the thousandth “is it me or is it the apps,” I realized the answers existed — in journals nobody reads, written in language nobody enjoys. So I started translating.
The Psychology of Dating (Fall 2027) is that translation: the actual science of attraction, chemistry, attachment, and red flags, written for people who want evidence with their advice and at least one laugh per chapter.
When I’m not working, I’m on a bike. This surprises no one who has seen my calendar — apparently I like momentum.